When My Life Changed

Today’s prompt is “Describe a distinct moment when your life took a turn.”

That’s an easy one – it’s the day that this little man came into our lives.

Everyone tells you how much your life is going to change.  How your world is going to be turned upside down and before that moment, you’re like… OK… well duh… it’s a baby.  Babies have a way of doing that.  But in no way was I prepared for the amount of love and frustration that came with a new baby.
Love because he was in me.  Survived and sustained by me.  It took all my strength to bring him into this world.  The 20+ hours of labor and the 3 1/2 hours of pushing.  He was literally perfection, the biggest lips I have ever seen on a baby and the sweetest little nose. 

Love because he is so pure and innocent.  Love because he is half of me.  Love because he is my everything.  Love because how could you not possible love this little kid and his sweetness?

But frustration because it’s just not easy.  The late night feedings, the gas, the poop, the pee, the spit up… oh the spit up

The schedule and the routine.  The crankiness and whining.

 

But this little man, has been growing up before my very eyes and to be honest it’s breaking my heart.  He has such a sweet disposition and his vocabulary is blossoming, his favorite word is “No No” while he shakes his finger at me.  Wonder where he gets it. 

I love him so much and while yes there are frustrations the love supersedes those over and over again.  My life is so much better because of Vincent and I am so grateful to God he has brought him to us.  Thank you Vincent for changing my life.

Words of Wisdom

Today’s prompt is “Pass on some useful advice or information you learned and always remembered.”
I have a couple pieces of advise that I’d like to pass on.  Some of it is personal some of it is work – but it applies to anything reallyThis one is HUGE for me.  So many times I would count on my mom or boyfriends to pull me out of my funk and while sometimes it works, I cant always do that.  I couldn’t always count on them being there for me every time I get sad.  It’s wasn’t fair to them and it’s wasn’t fair to me.  I put together a list of things that I do that makes me happy and when I start feeling sad, I do one or ALL the things that make me happy.  Now that I am older and maybe a little wiser, I tell that to everyone – learn to be alone – learn to pull yourself out of your rut… it will help you when you need it most.

Just like children testing their boundaries with their parents… people are going to test their boundaries with you as adults.  They are going to see how far they can push before you finally say something.  Are you going to muzzle yourself after being disrespected because you don’t like confrontation? Are you going to keep taking the little jabs here and there because it’s easier to stay quite? Are you going to keep letting something go without saying something or consequences? By not sticking up for yourself or saying something we are teaching those who intentionally or unintentionally hurt us how to treat us.  By not saying something, we are in essence saying it’s ok to treat me that way – I wont call you on it.  It’s OK to talk behind my back, I’ll just ignore it.  We teach people how to treat us and if we don’t say anything at all we are saying a lot. 

This is an easy one for me… by nature I crave solitude.  I absolutely love being by myself, but have met so many people hate being by themselves.  Just today, I threw my hands up in the air and said I need some me time.  I went to the bookstore, got myself a Starbucks and plopped down on a big cushy chair and read for an hour.  BLISS I TELL YOU.  But it’s not for everyone.  I’ve learned that from a very young age that if I enjoy my own company, others are going to enjoy it too – but if I cant stand being alone in a room with just me and my thoughts – why would anyone else? Take some time to get to know you a little better.  Go to the bookstore, head to Starbucks and people watch for a little, go see a movie.  Soon it becomes a part of you, you’ll not only want that alone time – but you’ll crave it.  Be your own best friend, because you are kind of a cool chick.

Those are a couple of my favorite pieces of advise – what about you? What are yours?